A boy is attracted to girls. A man is
attracted to women. Now, this has
nothing to do with the actual age of a
person. I’m referring to maturity, life
vision and stage of life. In fact, some
people regardless of their age, will never
really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that
a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or
immature tendencies or vice versa. This
post refers to one’s maturity and most
points would also apply if you switch the
genders as well.
If you are a boy, then expect that you will
attract only girls. However, if you are a
man (independent, knows your worth and
value, has a strong moral compass, is
considerate and an able communicator and
doesn’t let insecurity dominate your
psyche), then you should be dating a
woman. And if you can’t spot the
difference just yet, here are some
pointers:
1. A girl throws tantrums. When
displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just
as she did as a child when she didn’t get
her way with her parents. This often
consists of screaming, pouting, giving the
silent treatment, being passive, aggressive
and/or punishing. A woman still feels the
emotions of being upset/displeased, but
has cultivated the skill of responding versus
reacting. She comes to the table as an
adult, and communicates clearly what is
bothering her.
2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and
believes people should treat her like so. She
is entitled and feels that she is owed and
therefore expects more than she
appreciates. A woman, has standards
(what she holds herself to) not
expectations (what she projects on to
others).
3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her
currency and basis of value. A girl may be
so used to feeling validated through her
looks and se*uality, that she uses this as
her primary tool to get what she wants in
life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond
her physicality. A woman bases her value
on her intelligence, her strength, her
integrity, her values, her contributions,
her humanity.
4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial
strategy. A woman plans to be financially
independent — she banks on… herself. And
if she so happens to enter a relationship
dynamic where it makes sense for her
partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s
considered a bonus, not the expected life
line.
5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack
and scarcity. She competes and will even
tear down another in order to secure
resources or a mate. A woman helps other
women. She knows that there’s plenty
enough to go around and takes the high
road of integrity to get what she wants.
6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything
domestic and is proud of the fact that she
cannot cook or clean. A woman understands
that being domestic is not a duty, but
understands that it is one way of taking
care of herself and others. She also
understands that in the event she wants to
create a family, having a person in the
household who can contribute domestically
is important.
7. “A girl wants attention, a woman
wants respect. A girl wants to be adored
by many. A woman wants to be adored by
one.” -anonymous
8. A girl does not respect her body. She has
not yet understood that her body and
heart are sacred, and that it’s important
to be mindful of how she treats it and who
she shares it with.
9. A woman takes the time to reflect on
the type of human she wants to be, the
example she wants to leave and the vision
for her life. She has put thought into her
values and what she stands for. A girl has
not established her moral compass or values
and consequently, is often inconsistent.
10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes
superficial qualities above anything else.
Here is an example of how this checklist
may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny
jeans, over six feet tall, rich.. This is the
checklist of what a woman may look for:
High integrity, intelligent, kind, good
communicator, emotionally available…
Now, a lot of these differences require
taking the time to know someone to figure
out if the apple of your eye is indeed a
mature woman, or someone with an
immature mindset. However, one of the
quickest filters that you can notice from
the beginning is this:
11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.
were do you belong?
